How can I argue/be mean to my mum nicley?

Whenever I would argue to my mum,(calling her names, arguing etc) I will always get into trouble for it, but if she calls me a sware word she will never get into trouble, you know? How can I argue (being cheeky, thats what they say) to my mum and stuff without getting into trouble, how can i 'be cheeky' to her nicley, so I won't get into trouble?..